Day 3 - Love Is Not Selfish

Love is not selfish

Be devoted to one another in brotherly love;
give preference to one another in honor. —Romans 12:10

Today’s Dare

Whatever you put your time, energy, and
money into will become more important
to you. It’s hard to care for something
you are not investing in. Along with
restraining from negative comments,
buy your spouse something that says,
“I was thinking of you today.”

Well, today's dare presents a bit of a challenge. First, we are on a tight budget, and my husband would probably appreciate it more if I didn't buy him anything. Secondly, I don't have plans to leave the house today. I went to a playdate earlier and I don't think dragging the kids around anymore today would be fair. Thirdly, I have NO IDEA what I could buy for him. I know he wants a Play Station 3, but I just don't have $300+ to spend, not including the games that go with it! So instead, I am doing more things to show him I'm thinking of him instead of buying things. I still need to finish his laundry, and vaccuum the house. I think if I have all that done by the time he gets home, along with having dinner cooked and the kitchen cleaned, he will see that I was thinking of him.

I am still struggling with doing things while he is not doing them. It is very hard to remind myself to not be selfish. I am such a selfish person, as we all are. It is hard for me not to think "Well I'm going to just sit here and play with the girls and ignore the mess, because he was here for an hour and ignored the mess," when really, I should do it anyway, because all I'm doing otherwise is perpetuating selfish behavior. I need to more often say "no" to my wants so I can say "yes" to fulfilling his and my daughters' needs. I guess, when I think about it, I'm even being selfish writing this blog post right now, because there are other things I could be taking care of that show him I love him, and I am writing this post for me. So, let me get on that. Hopefully tomorrow while I'm out running errands, I will think of something good to buy for Nik to make up for today's dare.